Happiness is ‘Being able to not please anyone’ – England

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way – in short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil, in the superlative degree of comparison only.  - Charles Dickens

When talking about England, what will you think of ? The rainy weather, the royal family, or those English gentlemen with perfect accent?


I have been to many cities, and when people ask me about my favorite cities, it’s always London and New York.


London has the quality of tolerance like all the other big cities, London has the amazing architecture design, London has long and glorious history… There are so many things there that can capture your heart. But for me, the most attractive quality for London is its ability to move forward in its own pace and be able not to please anyone.


As the urban landmark, Big Ben actually can present London quite well. He witnessed London’s long history for all of its up and downs,  but he just moved second by second in his own rhythm like nothing could ever interrupt. Only when the bell rings can people realize his real function than just a scenic spot.


Those with true ability are usually the quietest. Despite its flourishing age, England never bragging, the history and present are living in harmony together. And the people there seem to be more friendly towards travelers. Every time I hold up my camera to capture the details of this lovely city, people living there who must have been quite used to that still give you a big smile, it’s like saying ‘Thank you for loving my city.’


Needless to say, the scenery of the countryside in UK is also amazing. The town is arranged like it was hundreds years ago. Modern life has to find its own way to fit into this.





England’s elegance is not presented by its unreachable royal life, or its impeccable city design. The country knows about its true ability, so they don’t need to please anyone else to gain global position or be afraid of displeasing any other countries. There is a Chinese saying ‘The countries that united for long time will naturally be separated, the countries that has been separated for long will be untied very soon.’ That’s the golden rules of how the world will develop, UK knows when to hold on and when to let go, I can’t figure out many countries in the world that can have the confidence to do that.


Maybe you haven’t realized, you are actually pleasing other people everyday – when you buy clothes, you care about how other people might think of it, when you are at meetings, you are very carefully presenting to be able to please both your boss and clients, when you are preparing for a date, you care more about how the other like it more than how you really feel about dressing up and what to do. Gradually, everything becomes tedious, because you forget the most important people to please, that’s yourself. I remember someone once told me, he doesn’t understand why people are so mean to themselves, they think themselves are fat, they compared themselves with other and feel inferior.


To be able to become happy, you need to learn to please yourself, you are the one and only in the world and you are your own beauty. If your partners leave you just because you dress poorly or not pleasing them all the time, that only means that they are not the one. Look into the mirror, as long as you are confident, no one could judge you. I always believe the best cosmetics is the confidence, and you could only gain it by yourselves.


Pleasing others are not totally negative, you can please your loved ones by sending them gifts, so long as you don’t force yourselves to change, pleasing others can actually makes both you and other people happy.


So from tomorrow, be yourself!



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